Who is Discernment Counseling not well suited for?

  • One partner has already made the final decision to divorce

  • One partner is coercing the other to participate

  • If there is a danger of domestic violence

Discernment counseling

Are you or your partner considering divorce, but not sure if its the right path? Do you want to gain clarity and confidence about what steps to take next with your marriage? Are you interested in taking one more look at your relationship before making a permanent decision ? Chances are either you or your spouse feels too little hope or energy to start traditional couples counseling. You may have tried that road before.

Discernment Counseling is specially designed for couples where one partner is leaning towards divorce and the other wants to preserve the marriage. Couples like this don’t do well in traditional couples counseling that aims at solving relationship issues. They need a different approach.

The focus of Discernment Counseling is not on solving marital issues, but on evaluating the possibility if those issues could potentially be solved. Sessions involve separate conversations with each partner, as well as time as a couple.

Discernment Counseling is short term, just 1-5 sessions, and leads to a decision to either divorce or give the marriage a last major effort, with a clear agenda for change.